Great book. Although it takes place in the 50s and was written in the 60s, you wouldn't know it reading it today. The book is still incredibly relevant and I know that villages such as this still exist, though I often wonder what has come of El Nahra now with the Iraq war. Tried to research but couldn't find anything. This book doesn't read like a boring, textbook ethnography. She gives incredible perspective to all that she learns from this experience and paints a picture that is very different from what many might imagine life is like for a woman in such a village. Really makes you think. I thoroughly enjoyed reading this book!

I’d give it 6 stars. This should be required reading for high school and general lit classes for college students.

I read this as a freshman in college and it has never been more relevant. It is an ethnography of the women of an Iraqi village named El Nahra. At the time it was written, the author was not an anthropologist but the wife of one of the men in the village. In fact, she was a newlywed!

I wish I knew where my copy of this book was. I'd like to read it again.

I saw someone I worked with reading this book for a class. It looked so interesting that I went and picked up a copy. I read it from cover to cover. A fascinating glimpse of a very foreign world.

Imagine getting married in 1957 and going immediately to a third-world country. Imagine living for those first two years of your marriage in a mud hut with two (non-connecting) rooms. Now imagine you're the wife and the place is southern Iraq - so you're wearing an abeyah and can speak only to women. Elizabeth Furnea, in her understated way makes this story of small town life a compelling and sympathetic human drama. This should be required reading for anyone spouting beliefs about muslims or Iraqis. It's a small story, true, and poignant.

Read for Honors Anthropology course

In the early 1950s, when Elizabeth Fernea was a young bride, she joined her researcher husband as he journeyed to a remote tribal village in Iraq, to live and study for nearly two years. As a Western woman, Elizabeth chose to integrate herself into tribal society by donning the traditional abayah (the long black cloak/veil), avoiding being seen by unfamiliar men.

Her time in the village is so full of learning, misunderstandings and bizarre experiences. She attends festivals and feasts. She lives in a mud hut and uses the same transportation as everyone else. She is bluntly honest about her short comings and blunders - as well as her wounded pride. I loved that she taught me as a reader so much about the lifestyle and nuances of the tribal culture but, yet, she didn't loose sight of herself as an occasionally anxious participant in the narration. There were no long explanations or interludes of "historical context," we just learned as she did.

Her need to have a friend and fit in, her concern about inadvertently causing offense, the way she purposely doesn't paint a perfect picture of the experience - these things made me trust her as a narrator and really connect with what she was going through. Most intriguing to me was the laws of purdah - the seclusion of women - and the intricacies of the relationships between women. There are so many social conventions to remember if you want to be a polite guest or hostess I loved to see the Iraqi womens' sense of self and their history, of their sureness of place in their family and in their society. I'd be interested in reading a follow up - to find out how women in this same part of Iraqi are faring today, nearly 60 years later.

Thank heavens for the "cast of characters" chart at the beginning! By the end of reading I maybe recognized ten out of dozens of names - they are just unfamiliar enough to me and similar enough to each other to take some patience. Despite my frustration at being unable to connect people on my own, I really did enjoy this very readable journey.

Great Ethnography. Good balance of motherly instincts.