I found this to be an enlightening and very informative discussion of the stages common to gay men at various points in the process of developing awareness and acceptance of their identity. As the book was published in 1994 some of the information is necessarily dated and I would be curious to know how the progress the LGBT community has made legally, politically and socially have affected the information contained herein. For instance, the authors discuss how because the gay community is denied the social constructs of marriage and parenthood open to the heterosexual community they have been free to create their own social norms and traditions. Now that marriage and parenthood are, thankfully, available choices for gay couples I wonder how that has affected the gay culture as presented in this book. That being said, however, I would imagine that much of the information in this book is still pertinent, as heterosexuality is still considered the "norm" by society at large, and certainly the process of acceptance must remain a complex one for many in the LGBT community.